A Heart-Centered Couples’ Practice
Updated: Feb 23, 2020
Couples often find themselves “off the rails” of their dream relationship track. Their journey together often gets bumping with obstacles, distractions and negative circumstances.
According to the Eastern chakra system, when a person’s heart chakra is closed (seat of love), it can’t hear, feel, or discern emotions. According to ancient Eastern text, a modern man/woman is ambivalent and confused due to lack of knowledge.
Living without knowledge among couples is like being hijacked by fear, dispensing energy towards the primitive instinct of self-preservation. When this closure occurs, the body completely denies access to the frontal cortex, priming a survival pattern—all decisions made, or emotions expressed are rooted in fear and survival instinct.
Couples then feel stuck, disconnected, and utterly unhappy because the relational behaviors executed appear purely self-centered, operating from a closed, dried-up reservoir.
The more they paddle upstream with an abundance of head knowledge, the more they endeavor on a problematic, ego-centered, self-defeating path.
When couples transcend from head to heart, it immediately metabolizes harmonious flow. A couples’ inherent true nature assimilates their relationship into their mind, body, and soul, thus training the mind to think pragmatically to seek peace and happiness within. Understanding this concept helps couples experience the deeply interconnected nature of their lives within and between each other to integrate interpersonally.
Mindful awareness further integrates the brain, allowing for easy access due to the frequent descents from the head to heart. The process of asking for an appointment before engaging is a compassionate, mindful approach for assessing readiness to touch the wounded parts of our partners. To practice mindfulness as a couple and to channel the flow from the heart is to send and receive appreciation as a daily ritual in the Imago process. This allows couples to be more flexible rather than fixed or rigid; they become more open, accepting, and loving towards their partners.
When couple’s mindful behaviors are paired with least resistance and more acceptance, harmonious flow and mindfulness become synonymous. Through conscious work and Safe Conversations principles, couples can enter into a more profound connection with themselves through their heart and help them to listen with their hearts—not their ears—when dispensing empathy and acceptance. Being present in the here and now helps each partner enter into each other’s world with keen awareness and curiosity.
Always be curious.
An initiation into any practice may include silence, staring into your partner’s eyes, or holding hands, eliciting mindfulness before any words uttered. A heart centered approach suggests couples to cross a bridge in order to cultivate empathy for their rigid or chaotic partner.
At times, this process requires one heart-evolved, flexible partner to not only cross the bridge but to build the bridge and lift the shame of silence that has hermetically sealed in their relationship. The partner’s rigidity then is substituted with a refreshing, freeing, and accommodating personality, and chaos swapped for grounded, compassionate collaboration.
Heart-centered integration appears kind and compassionate and involves a sacred way of loving from the heart while exhibiting positive, caring behaviors. Through the validation process, the partner becomes affirming rather than dismissing a partner’s feelings or thoughts. They let their partner know that they are aware of their existence. They matter and appreciated in the relationship. This process helps facilitate the emergence of the partner’s sacredness, and the process merely becomes a container, a safe space for what each of them are experiencing.
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